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The questions your people might answer.

Pick a bank to start from. You can swap questions in or out and reorder them before you send it. Here's what's in each one.

Playful6 questionsLight, a little ridiculous. A warm way in.

  1. What songs, smells, or random objects remind you of me?

    Which songs? Which smells? Which object made you stare at a wall for four minutes?

  2. What's a phrase or face that's unmistakably me?

  3. What's the funniest thing I've ever said?

  4. If I were a weather system, what's the forecast?

  5. What's your favorite version of me?

  6. When have you felt most cared for by me?

Tender6 questionsSlower and more honest. For people who know you well.

  1. What songs, smells, or random objects remind you of me?

    Which songs? Which smells? Which object made you stare at a wall for four minutes?

  2. What's a phrase or face that's unmistakably me?

  3. When have you felt most cared for by me?

  4. Why do you stay in my life?

  5. What do you think I don't give myself credit for?

  6. How do you actually perceive me — vs. how you think I see myself?

Balanced7 questionsA bit of both. Some play, some weight. Most people start here.

  1. What songs, smells, or random objects remind you of me?

    Which songs? Which smells? Which object made you stare at a wall for four minutes?

  2. What's a phrase or face that's unmistakably me?

  3. What's your favorite version of me?

  4. When have you felt most cared for by me?

  5. Why do you stay in my life?

  6. How do you actually perceive me — vs. how you think I see myself?

  7. What do you think I overvalue?

Hilarious6 questionsCloser to a roast than a card. Bring receipts.

  1. What's a phrase or face that's unmistakably me?

  2. What's the most ridiculous hill I've died on?

  3. What's my most predictable move?

    The thing I do that you could call three seconds before I do it.

  4. What's the funniest thing I've ever said?

  5. If you had to roast me in one sentence, what's the line?

  6. What do I think I'm great at that I am, charitably, fine at?

    Be gentle. Be honest. Mostly honest.

Nostalgic6 questionsThe way-back questions. For people who knew you when.

  1. What songs, smells, or random objects remind you of me?

    Which songs? Which smells? Which object made you stare at a wall for four minutes?

  2. What's the first memory of me that comes to mind?

    Not the most important one. The first one that showed up.

  3. What's something about me that hasn't changed since we met?

  4. What's something about me that has?

  5. What's a moment with me you'd want to live again?

  6. What's a version of me you miss?

    No wrong answer here. Even the messier ones.

Unflinching6 questionsThe honest stuff you'd only want from someone who's earned it.

  1. What's a phrase or face that's unmistakably me?

  2. What do I do that I don't seem to notice?

    The tic, the pattern, the thing everyone but me can see.

  3. Where do I get in my own way?

  4. What do you think I overvalue?

  5. What's something true about me that's hard to say to my face?

    Anonymous exists for exactly this. Say it kindly, say it anyway.

  6. How do you actually perceive me — vs. how you think I see myself?

Grateful6 questionsLess about who you are, more about what you've meant.

  1. What's something small I did that stuck with you?

    Small on purpose. The throwaway thing I've probably forgotten.

  2. When have you felt most cared for by me?

  3. What's something you have because of me?

    A habit, a person you met, a place you'd never have gone.

  4. When did I show up for you in a way you didn't expect?

  5. What would be different in your life if we'd never met?

  6. What do you thank me for in your head but never out loud?

Vulnerable6 questionsDeeper than tender. For the two or three people who get the real you.

  1. When you picture me, where am I and what am I doing?

  2. Why do you stay in my life?

  3. What do you worry about for me?

    The quiet kind. The thing you'd never bring up unprompted.

  4. When have you seen me at my lowest, and what did you think?

  5. What do you wish I'd let you see?

  6. What's true about me that I'm afraid isn't?

    Tell me the thing I'd be relieved to hear.

Curious6 questionsForward-looking. Less 'who you are,' more 'who you're turning into.'

  1. What's something I'm into right now that surprises you?

  2. What would you bet I do next?

  3. What do you think I'll care about in ten years that I don't yet?

  4. What's a question I'm clearly still working out?

    The thing I keep circling. You've watched me circle it.

  5. Where do you think I'm quietly changing?

  6. What's a door you can see for me that I can't?

Proud6 questionsFor a moment worth marking. What they actually see when they look up to you.

  1. What's the first word you'd use to introduce me to someone who should be impressed?

  2. What do I make look easy that isn't?

  3. What's your favorite version of me?

  4. What have you watched me earn?

    The thing that didn't come easy. You saw the work.

  5. When were you proud of me and didn't say so?

  6. What would the younger me not believe about who I am now?

Steady6 questionsThe undramatic kind of love. The Tuesday stuff, not the big speeches.

  1. What's a phrase or face that's unmistakably me?

  2. What's a small thing I always do?

    The unremarkable ritual. The thing that's just… me.

  3. What's it like to be in a room with me on a normal day?

  4. What do you count on me for?

  5. How am I when nothing special is happening?

  6. What's a tiny thing about me you'd miss if it were gone?

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